My midlife friend Allison Allen posed a question that got me thinking. In Amazing Grays, I write about the importance of grieving various life transitions, and the real or perceived losses that often accompany them.
Her question was: For midlife women not in a committed relationship, how do we come to grips with what might be lifelong singleness? How do we grieve that?
Turning that question over and over in my mind, I was once again struck with how much misery we can unintentionally create for ourselves by wishing things were different than they are. We often miss the opportunity of the moment because we get tripped up by what we think is “supposed to be.”
You can read my response to her question at womenbloom.com. I’d love to hear your take on the issue!
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